Delayed Gratification

This image says a lot about our two youngest children. Prestin on left just turned 6 and Austin on right will be 8 in 5 months.  This picture was taken during lunch today after swimming 🏊🏻 They were both super hungry and mama made them special macaroni and cheese with SPAM.  They love SPAM but we do not allow them to eat it often for obvious reasons 😂

Prestin on left ate all his SPAM 1st and didn’t want to finish his macaroni while Austin on right ate all his macaroni and saved the SPAM for last.  This is exactly how their personalities are. Prestin is much more impulsive, bold, forward and almost careless.  Austin, on the other hand, is more deliberate, prudent, patient and has mastered the art of delayed gratification, in this case 😁

40 Years of Standard Research Found That People With This One Quality Are More Likely to Succeed.  – In the 1960s, a Stanford professor named Walter Mischel began conducting a series of important psychological studies.

During his experiments, Mischel and his team tested hundreds of children — most of them around the ages of 4 and 5 years old — and revealed what is now believed to be one of the most important characteristics for success in health, work, and life.

The Marshmallow Experiment

The experiment began by bringing each child into a private room, sitting them down in a chair, and placing a marshmallow on the table in front of them.

At this point, the researcher offered a deal to the child.

The researcher told the child that he was going to leave the room and that if the child did not eat the marshmallow while he was away, then they would be rewarded with a second marshmallow. However, if the child decided to eat the first one before the researcher came back, then they would not get a second marshmallow.

So the choice was simple: one treat right now or two treats later.

The researcher left the room for 15 minutes.

As you can imagine, the footage of the children waiting alone in the room was rather entertaining. Some kids jumped up and ate the first marshmallow as soon as the researcher closed the door. Others wiggled and bounced and scooted in their chairs as they tried to restrain themselves, but eventually gave in to temptation a few minutes later. And finally, a few of the children did manage to wait the entire time.

Published in 1972, this popular study became known as The Marshmallow Experiment, but it wasn’t the treat that made it famous. The interesting part came years later.

The Power of Delayed Gratification

As the years rolled on and the children grew up, the researchers conducted follow up studies and tracked each child’s progress in a number of areas. What they found was surprising.

The children who were willing to delay gratification and waited to receive the second marshmallow ended up having higher SAT scores, lower levels of substance abuse, lower likelihood of obesity, better responses to stress, better social skills as reported by their parents, and generally better scores in a range of other life measures.

The researchers followed each child for more than 40 years and over and over again, the group who waited patiently for the second marshmallow succeed in whatever capacity they were measuring. In other words, this series of experiments proved that the ability to delay gratification was critical for success in life.

And if you look around, you’ll see this playing out everywhere…

If you delay the gratification of watching television and get your homework done now, then you’ll learn more and get better grades.

If you delay the gratification of buying desserts and chips at the store, then you’ll eat healthier when you get home.

If you delay the gratification of finishing your workout early and put in a few more reps, then you’ll be stronger.

… and countless other examples.

In R+F case…
If you delay the gratification of watching television and get your Reach Out, Prospecting, doing your MMA 👊🏻 now, then you’ll have more prospects in your funnel and get closer to your goal.

(read more on the research here https://jamesclear.com/delayed-gratification)

We live in the age of NOW.  Everything has to be instant.  We’ve been conditioned by technology, conveniences, by social media to crave, to feening even for the next “like” and comment on our post.  I myself am guilty of this as well, craving that dopamine drip, the neurotransmitter that controls the brain’s reward and pleasure centers.  Every time you get a “like” on your post, you get a drip of dopamine.  It can become addicting.

I say all this to say that we ALL need to practice more “delayed gratification” it’s never too late to learn… especially in our MMA 👊🏻  Money Making Activities…  And not depend so much on that dopamine hit.

FB Posts 📲

Just because you didn’t get a “like” on your post doesn’t mean that “they” your friends/prospects didn’t see it.  Don’t be discouraged.  So often when I see people in person, they would mention how they liked my picture or video or start talking about a specific post but they never liked or commented on ANY of my pic, video or post.  This happens ALL the time!  My point is keep sowing.  Everyone is in a different season of his or her life.  The “right” time for them to ask you about R+F may not be now.  Don’t stop.  Keep posting.  Find creative ways to post about R+F, it shouldn’t always be about pitching R+F on every post.  Follow top leaders that are active on FB & copy what they are doing.  Take what you like & implement it for you.

Practice Delayed Gratification 💪🏻

There’s a season to sow & a season to reap – but never is it both in the same season.  Keep sowing your seeds… Planting those posts 📲

Be Consistent & Persistent with your daily MMA – Money Making Activities even if it’s only 15 minutes a day…

You can only control YOU – leave the outcome to God, the Law of Averages & the Compounding Effect of your daily actions 🎯